Listen young women -- boyfriends are not mini-mission fields...

I think it's obvious by the title of this blog what verse I will refer to at some point, so I'll just get it over with:

(14) Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (15) And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? (16) And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God... (17) Therefore "Come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. "Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.”
2 Corinthians 6:14-17

It has become so incredibly cliché to me: Christian girl meets "a really nice" non-believer boy. Christian girl starts dating non-believer boy in hopes of converting him. Non-believer boy doesn't change. Christian girl thinks she has "fallen in love" after giving so much of herself emotionally, spiritually, and to be frank, sexually to non-believer boy. Christian girl strays from the faith because "she can't help who she loves". Every single girl I know who has travelled this course has ended up straying from her Christian walk. Not one has ever brought her boyfriend to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. Not a single one.

Not only do I want to emphasize the words in the above passage, but also the punctuation. After "do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers" what do we find? A period. Period. Not comma "unless he's really nice", or comma "unless you have a lot in common", or comma "unless you think you can convert him". Just the commandment "do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers". The end. No exceptions.

Proverbs 12:26 warns about chooing non-believers as close friends:

The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.

If the Bible so clearly cautions against having close friendships with non-believers, how much more careful should we be with choosing a potential spouse? 1 Corinthians 11:3 paints a perfect picture:

But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

That is what a God-honouring marriage looks like, and if Christ is not the head of the man there is only one other option for who is: Satan. So who then is the head of your "unequally yoked" relationship? You guessed it: Satan.

I'm not trying to discourage anyone from sharing the gospel with non-believers of the opposite gender. What I am discouraging is compromising God's holy commandments thinking that it's going to be for the greater good. How can you possibly convince someone that what you believe in is true if you are so readily willing to go against it? Think about it.

And young women, I am pleading with you. Don't dabble in this. If you can't share the gospel with someone of the opposite sex without falling for them, then direct them to someone who can. Save your heart, your emotional attachments, and your virginity for a future husband who loves Christ the same way you do.

If you are a young woman in an unequally-yoked relationship, I pray that the Holy Spirit is making you very uncomfortable right now.